Brace Myself

2005 vs. 2011

2011-09-07T02:48:00.000-07:00

Two birthday photos. One from 2005, the other from 2011. I'm so happy I did it.

Each birthday is a good opportunity to look back and look ahead. Never do anything out of fear. Never avoid anything out of fear. Never say never.

Love you all! Be well.

Miserable & Hopeful

2010-01-16T11:34:00.001-08:00

Why is it that what's good for you doesn't always feel good? Sigh. Detoxing and learning to crave good things. Feeling miserable and hopeful at the same time.

Note from a Nomad

2009-12-30T00:45:00.001-08:00

Yes! I'm finally in my element. A vodka martini, and burger washed
down with some Norwegian beer. Perfect. The lustre of travel is in
doing things you know you won't likely get a chance to again. That's
why I love it. Do it, live it just once. But with abandon - and with
all your heart.

Sent from my iPhone

Trip Next Week!

2009-12-09T00:30:00.000-08:00

For those of you who have been reading my blog since the early days - you might recall that I had wanted to visit Norway. Well, it's about to happen.

Next Thursday I'll be flying out to Stockholm and starting my 19-day vacation in Scandinavia. Sweden, Finland, Norway and Denmark. Not the best time of the year to visit, of course, but I'm excited!

Tourist tips much appreciated.

Free Will: Happiness and the Foundations of Morality

2009-10-21T00:44:00.001-07:00

Hi Ruby

2009-10-13T01:18:00.000-07:00

Hi Ruby, thanks for the kind note. Frankly, it surprised me that anyone would even read this particular post, let alone comment on it. I really appreciate it.

Sorry your surgery was delayed. I hope they find a suitable date soon. As far as nerves - think positive thoughts, and relinquish control. Sure it's scary to go under the knife. But stressing out doesn't help. I remember before my surgery a colleague of mine asked - "Aren't you nervous?". I said - "No - all I have to do is pass out. I think if anyone, my SURGEON should be nervous!" :)

All jokes aside, I hope everything goes well for you. All this will become a distant memory in the near future. Trust me.

Along Came Charlie

2009-10-11T21:53:00.000-07:00

I was - am - heartbroken.

Highly functional by day, and highly dysfunctional by night, I didn't want to go home after work. Didn't want to be home alone, drowning in tears and dark thoughts. Smoking cigarettes and sipping Scotch. Struggling to forget when it hurts to remember. - To no avail.

Then in my occasional, 2-year-long search for a canine companion, I found Charlie. A fully grown, 1-year-old Cocker Spaniel/Beagle mix who weighs 25 lbs. He needed a loving home and I needed affection. Perfect win-win situation.

As with any commitment, a lot of work is required. But I'm ready - and actually looking forward to it. Training classes, walks on the beach, sunny afternoons in the park, etc. Perhaps commitment breeds love - I don't know.

A friend of mine just wished me "Maitri & Karuna" on Facebook.

Maitri = friendliness, pleasantness, lovingness
Karuna = compassion, mercy

How very kind of him. Now - let the healing begin.

23 Vs. 33

2009-09-07T22:01:00.000-07:00

I just had my 33rd birthday this weekend.

For those of you who are considering jaw surgery - but hesitating because you think you might be too old - you're NEVER too old.

The picture on the right was taken when I was 23. The picture on the left was taken on my 33rd birthday, just a couple of days ago.

I'm so glad I decided to get braces at age 30 and subsequently undergo jaw surgery. I'm not advocating doing it for purely cosmetic reasons. But, if there are cosmetic benefits in addition to medical ones - then why not?

Random Things I've Learned

2009-06-07T23:16:00.001-07:00

Don't be a narcissist, but love yourself.
Think positive.
Keep an open mind.
Be kind.
See as much of the world as possible. Travel.
Have class.
Vocalize praise and appreciation.
Stay curious.
Take interest in things other than just yourself.
Create win-win situations. Don't build your happiness upon someone else's misery, nor their happiness yours. Neither would be justified or sustainable.

Hey Emily

2009-02-24T20:45:00.000-08:00

Sorry it took me so long to get get back to you, Emily, but here you go:

Q: How long was your recovery?
A: Define recovery. I took 5 weeks off post-surgery.

Q: Were people amazed by the change after the swelling had gone done? I kind of want a total transformation because my underbite is very apparent; will the change be totally different? (I'll send you photos).
A: "Amazed"? Maybe not. Mostly people tell me I look younger and my face is rounder. I'm the only person I wanted to "amaze" - and quite frankly, I'm very happy with the results.

Q: What was the most difficult part of recovery?
A: Breathing problems. See http://bracemyself.blogspot.com/2007/02/breathing-through-wet-sponge.html.

Q: My upper jaw is really flat and concave, but they haven't brought up the fact that I need it shortened and advanced a little, should I insist for the best results? I am also, having my jaw set back.
A: Consult your surgeon. I can't give you any professional opinions.

Q: Was there any permanent numbness upper or lower? Any paralysis?
A: About a third of my lower lip still feels somewhat numb, but it's not enough to bother me.

New Year's Resolution

2009-01-12T18:10:00.001-08:00

Did you make a New Year's resolution?

I didn't. Haven't in a long time. But I want to, even at the risk of failing flat on my face. So here it goes:

Be more patient.
Take a photography class.
Quit sugar.

Now, #2 and 3 are easy to measure. Either I did it or I didn't. But #1? How can I keep track of that?

Response to Mae

2008-11-02T11:03:00.000-08:00

Hi there Mae! Thanks for the comment. Nope I didn't have a nose job. The change happened naturally as I had both the upper and the lower jaw surgery. Have you talked to your surgeon about what sort of changes to expect?

I'm going to be completely offline for two weeks, traveling in Ireland. Leave a comment here if any other questions come up, and I'll be happy to respond when I return. Good luck!

Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire

2008-09-09T21:09:00.000-07:00

The Proust Questionnaire has its origins in a parlor game popularized (though not devised) by Marcel Proust, the French essayist and novelist, who believed that, in answering these questions, an individual reveals his or her true nature. Here is the basic Proust Questionnaire, courtsey of Vanity Fair.

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?
2. What is your greatest fear?
3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
4. What is the trait you most deplore in others?
5. Which living person do you most admire?
6. What is your greatest extravagance?
7. What is your current state of mind?
8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
9. On what occasion do you lie?
10. What do you most dislike about your appearance?
11. Which living person do you most despise?
12. What is the quality you most like in a man?
13. What is the quality you most like in a woman?
14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
15. What or who is the greatest love of your life?
16. When and where were you happiest?
17. Which talent would you most like to have?
18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
19. What do you consider your greatest achievement?
20. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
21. Where would you most like to live?
22. What is your most treasured possession?
23. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
24. What is your favorite occupation?
25. What is your most marked characteristic?
26. What do you most value in your friends?
27. Who are your favorite writers?
28. Who is your hero of fiction?
29. Which historical figure do you most identify with?
30. Who are your heroes in real life?
31. What are your favorite names?
32. What is it that you most dislike?
33. What is your greatest regret?
34. How would you like to die?
35. What is your motto?

Wanna see how some celebrities answered these? Go to VF's archive.

Response to Bailey

2008-08-29T17:22:00.000-07:00

Hey Bailey, surgery coming up on the 3rd? Exciting!!

I'm not sure I have much to say in response to your questions.

For instance, did my "lips thin out"? Um, no. If anything, they're fuller. Honestly my surgeon never mentioned them. I don't see much difference, and certainly NOT for the WORSE.

3 mm upper jaw advancement. Hmm. I believe mine was advanced 2 mm. Needless to say, everyone's case is different. Did it make my face shorter? Hell yeah. That combined with my lower jaw surgery - shortened my face by a whopping 9 mm.

Being able to close your lips without a conscious effort would be a good thing, don't you think? Has your surgeon indicated which option he favors?

The best thing I can share with you is this: relax. Trust that everything will go just as planned, and that you'll be THRILLED with the results. I recall being rolled into the operating room, scooting over onto the operating table, and passing out promptly, the instant my head hit the table (or maybe even before!). When I came to, it was all done! Voila! Nothing to it.

Oh - and eat what you enjoy while you still can. You'll be very hungry for the next few weeks. ;)

Good luck! Let me know how it goes.

Nose and Cheekbones

2008-08-23T11:29:00.000-07:00

Hi Susan - thanks for leaving a comment on my blog.

Q: "I am writing you again because your comment on this thread about Dr. Li saying your nose would be wider was intriguing. I'm guessing that the composite photo pre-op wasn't able to show you this?"

A: No, it wasn't. The composite was only of my profile.

Q: "I'm concerned about how upper jaw advancement will change the look of my cheeks and nose from the front view, not just profile. Did you find that his prediction turned out to be accurate? It's hard to tell from the photos you've posted - your hair is different and there's swelling that makes it hard to compare - but would be great to get your personal take on the nose / cheek changes."

A: Yes, Dr. Li's prediction did turn out to be accurate. My nose has become slightly wider. See photo above showing day of brace installation vs. now. But I suspect I'm the only one that notices. Trust me, no one else stares at my face as much. LOL. I don't dislike the change, however, and quite frankly, I don't think much about it at all. Why? Because I believe it's not about any single feature. It's about proportions and balance. It's about adjusting what was misaligned/malfunctioning to make it function optimally, and as a by-product, make the features look more balanced. Does that make sense?

Now, about the cheekbones. Mine are slightly higher now. My favorite pair of sunglasses leave a slight indentation on my cheeks now while they never did before. That's the ONLY give-away.

Overall I think the thing you'll notice the most in the long run is that your facial features are more balanced and harmonious. For instance, in my case, I used to feel very self-conscious about my long and prominent chin. I felt like Jay Leno. Now when I see photos of myself I don't see any single feature jumping out at me.... they all kinda blend in and play well together.

Talk to your surgeon if any other questions nag at you. They've heard them all and will most likely have answers that would help put your mind at ease. Good luck! :)

Happy Findings of A Nomad

2008-08-02T13:55:00.001-07:00

Old book stores with the soothing, intoxicating smell of yellowed pages.
Gray-haired, graceful old couples arm in arm at the symphony.
Watermelon on a hot summer day. Guilt-free indulgence.
Manolos on sale at Barneys. Guilty indulgence.
Loving my own solitude.
Catching his eye from across the room, and the quiet smile.
Seeing a city for the first time. Assuming it's a city worthwhile.
My cynicism occasionally proven wrong.
Being aware of the difference between my ego and my inner core.
An enduring friendship that distance and time cannot fade.

Wanderlust

2008-08-02T08:00:00.000-07:00

Coldplay's tour destinations read like my travel wish list. Though it'd require me to double back to countries (but not cities) I've already visited. Oh the wanderlust.

02/08/08: Hartford, CT
03/08/08: Washington, DC
04/08/08: Boston, MA
09/08/08: Osaka
10/08/08: Tokyo (check)
01/09/08: Strasbourg
02/09/08: Mannheim
04/09/08: Lyon
06/09/08: Barcelona (but NOT in the summer!)
07/09/08: Madrid (check)
09/09/08: Paris (Check, check, check. What's the hype about Paris anyway? It doesn't even make my top 3.)
10/09/08: Paris
12/09/08: Cologne
14/09/08: Hamburg
15/09/08: Berlin (check)
17/09/08: Stockholm
18/09/08: Stockholm
19/09/08: Oslo (for sure, in 2010.)
22/09/08: Prague (A little too Eastern European - I know it's not PC - but freedom of speech!)
23/09/08: Budapest (I hear it's beautiful)
24/09/08: Vienna (almost went last year, but ran out of time)
26/09/08: Munich

Later this year I'm going to Ireland, and perhaps Scotland. Next year will be an all Asian fare: my best guy friend's wedding in Taipei, then adding Vietnam to the itinerary. 2010? Hopefully any and all of the following: Vienna, Oslo, and Stockholm.

Composite Image

2008-07-25T08:43:00.000-07:00

Question: Hey Kristen! Random question, I found your blog because you had jaw surgery. I was wondering did your surgeon give you a composite image before surgery? I found someone who doesn't want to do a composite image, and I'm wondering how commonly people get them, and if you think I should ask for one, or if I don't need one.

Answer: Yes, I did ask for a composite image (before/after profiles) prior to even getting the braces. My surgeon and orthodontist worked on the projection together. They provided two computer sketches that outlined how I would probably look after the surgery. In retrospect, it gave me a good ballpark idea, but the final results, if I say so myself, were even better.

I don't know if patients normally ask for a composite image. But my surgeon and ortho didn't seem surprised that I wanted one. Quite frankly, I'd have reservations about any doctor who wouldn't provide an estimate, and I would definitely ask him/her why. Another way to ensure you pick the right doctor? Ask to see the before/after photos of previous patients. They should have some on record who have consented to share those photos. My 2 cents.

Who Knew?

2008-07-08T20:31:00.001-07:00

A 19-year-old Jude Law had a minor role in an episode of The Casebook of Sherlock Holmes, starring the late, great Jeremy Brett.

Surprise!

2008-07-05T23:37:00.001-07:00

Once in a while life throws you a curve ball....

A few years ago I dated a UC Berkeley graduate. I met him and his brother at a pizza joint in Berkeley for lunch. On my way in, a homeless guy stopped me right outside the restaurant and asked for money. I didn't have any change but said I would give him some on my way out. So as we finished our meals, I started rummaging through my wallet for change. My then boyfriend asked me why, and I told him about the homeless guy.

"Don't give him money," he said, "he's only going to use it to buy beer or drugs."

"How do YOU know? You can't automatically assume that," I argued.

His brother stepped in and said - "How about you get him a slice of pizza instead?"

I thought it was a good idea and proceeded to the counter to get a slice of pepperoni pizza - when my boyfriend stopped me and said - "get the vegetarian instead." "Why? Everyone loves pepperoni!" "No, trust me on this. Just get the vegetarian."

I did, and we walked out - to find the same homeless guy still right at the door. I handed him the slice wrapped in foil. But he took a step back and said - "It's not pepperoni, is it? I'm a vegetarian."
My friend Mark went on a 10-day vacation in Egypt last March. He booked it through a travel agency, who promised stays at 5-star hotels. When he returned, he told me that yes, they stayed at 5-star hotels alright, but hotels in Egypt are on a 10-star scale! :D

George Carlin Dead

2008-06-22T22:37:00.001-07:00

Just received an email news alert from New York Times that the famed comedian, George Carlin, has passed away from heart failure this evening. He had been just admitted into an L.A. hospital earlier this afternoon for chest pains.

Well, at least it was a quick one.

George Carlin had a knack for words. He poked fun at everyday absurdities and pointed out the nonsense in phrases that we all thought made sense. If you've never heard of him, watch him in this YouTube video, it's George at his best. If you've been a fan, watch him in this YouTube video, it's George at his best.

Buddhist Five Precepts

2008-06-05T00:05:00.000-07:00

Perhaps as a Christian I should not be discussing Buddhist values. I'm not certain where the lines lie. But my conversations with a friend led to the following five Buddhist precepts, and I found them profound and valuable:

1. Do not kill. Sure, this one's easy.
2. Do not steal. "In its broadest sense, observing the second precept also means that one cultivates the virtue of generosity."
3. Do not indulge in sexual misconduct. Not sending anyone on a guilt trip, just everything in moderation, and have respect for yourself.
4. Do not make false speech. Respect the truth.
5. Do not take intoxicants. Cultivate your body, as well as your mind.

A motivational speaker - whose name escapes me - who focuses on the topic of morality once said he always asked his audience why they'd do the right thing. "Because it makes us feel good," they'd say. His response? "You should do the right thing NOT because it makes you feel good. You should do it simply because it's the right thing to do." Food for thought?

The Last Lecture

2008-04-24T07:11:00.000-07:00

Professor Randy Pausch, from Carnegie Mellon, is dying from pancreatic cancer. His doctors gave him months to live.

If you haven't heard his Last Lecture, click on the YouTube video below. No, it's not the usual pep talk you'd expect. It's inspiring, witty, and wise. It helped me see things from a different perspective.... and more importantly, feel the responsibility, the NECESSITY, to lead the best life possible.

The video is 76 minutes long, so make time for it.

The IRS

2008-04-15T16:39:00.001-07:00

In honor of tax day....

the IRS

theIRS

theirs

....not mine

Why is it....

2008-04-01T22:54:00.001-07:00

That white kids are rarely adopted by non-white parents, while Caucasian parents adopt black, Hispanic, and Asian kids all the time?
That Obama is referred to as the first "black" presidential candidate, when he's in fact, only half-black and half-white?
That more Asian women date outside of their race than Asian men?

In-Flight Video Show-Down

2008-03-27T23:21:00.001-07:00

Delta Airline's new safety video hit it big on YouTube because the flight attendant in it supposedly looks like Angelina Jolie. No.... she reminds me of Jamie Lee Curtis... with big lips. Personally I like Virgin America's video better. It's animated and sassy - fun to watch.

Do's and Don'ts

2008-03-15T23:03:00.001-07:00

Do splurge on facials and massages.
Don't buy more clothes.
Do drink plenty of water.
Don't drink coffee and soda.
Do sleep until you naturally wake up.
Don't stay up late.
Do get addicted to working out and the endorphins it releases.
Don't work late on a regular basis.
Do sweeten your water, tea, and oatmeal with honey.
Don't indulge in refined sugars.
Do eat and eat healthy.
Don't deny yourself if you truly crave something.
Do live below your means.
Don't confuse your means with your meaning (that's a line from a Citibank billboard I liked).

Stuff White People Like

2008-03-02T07:52:00.001-08:00

http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.wordpress.com/

A friend of mine IM'd me the link to this site yesterday. Warning: potentially offensive. If you're easily offended, don't click on the link.

For the rest of us - it's hilarious. True-to-life observations of "white people". Things that we all think about but haven't articulated into words. Sharp wit, sharp tongue. No wonder it's gotten over 6 MILLION hits in 2 months!

A Shout Out to Susan

2008-02-22T15:40:00.001-08:00

Susan, you have the same orthodontist AND surgeon? Whoa, small world. Leave (another) comment and let me know however I can help out! :)

I live in San Francisco. Don't wanna post my number or email address here for obvious reasons, but you can IM me on Yahoo Messenger at "kristenchat" so we can connect.

One word that will hopefully help put your mind at ease: Dr. Li will send your insurance company a request for authorization. It's his standard procedure. No need for you to lift a finger.

In my case, it was considered Class III Skeletal Deformity. Medical reason enough for any insurance company. The trick is, some of them state explicitly that medical reasons or not, they simply don't cover jaw surgeries, period. That you gotta figure out directly with them. Best of luck!

1 Year Post Op, Before & After Photo 4

2008-02-06T23:07:00.001-08:00

Before and after profiles!

The surgery is now a distant memory. I hit my one year post-op anniversary last Thursday, January 31st. You can still see some gum when I smile big - that can't be helped. But, it's part of what makes me look like ME (and my mother), so I don't mind it at all.

Most importantly, I've been excercising my front teeth and cutting through lots of sandwiches and noodles, etc., which I hadn't been able to do in a long time, due to the edge-on-edge bite. Oh, the joy and satisfaction of literally sinking your teeth into food! :)

Another benefit? No more jaw fatigue. Some people get headaches when they're tired. I used to get jaw aches. My jaws would get tired and feel a dull ache. Very annoying. Now poof, that's long gone. Plus, no more clicking or weird shifting when I open wide! That used to freak me out: the weird twisting and popping of my jaw joints when I had to open wide at a dentist's. No more of that. The nightmare is over!

Normalization

2008-02-06T23:05:00.001-08:00

My very gummy smile and pointy long chin before braces and surgery, vs. a much rounder face now.

1 Year Post Op, Before & After Photo 3

2008-02-06T23:05:00.000-08:00

Before Braces Vs. One Year Post-Op.

1 Year Post Op, Before & After Photo 2

2008-02-06T23:03:00.000-08:00

Before Braces Vs. 1-Year Post-Op.

1 Year Post Op, Before & After Photo 1

2008-02-06T22:59:00.000-08:00

Morning of braces installation (Feb. 7th, 2006) Vs. (almost) one year post-op (December 2007).

Random House

2008-01-30T22:27:00.001-08:00

An importer of wine and sake. A deportation officer. Two graphic designers. A stage producer. A software marketer.

What do they all have in common?

....

They - WE - are all taking beginner level voice lessons on Wednesday nights at a local music school. Tonight we learned what "solfege" means. We've also started singing Sonny & Cher's "I Got You Babe". A very old song, but it has such a sweet innocence.

Life is good.

A Lost Art

2008-01-30T08:25:00.001-08:00

How often do you write? As in, pen on paper, free form, NOT typing (as I'm apparently doing right now).

I have a notebook at work - most of us probably do - but rarely write anything in it. It's just so much easier to jut down notes in an Outlook email and keep to-do lists and appointments in Google Desktop. Forget "writing" a friend - that's what we have txt msgs and emails for. Letters are so WW II.

A couple weeks ago a friend of mine had a birthday. In the card I wrote a couple paragraphs in addition to the usual "happy birthday!". A few days later, I received a "thank you" card in the mail from her with a long hand-written note. All of a sudden it took me back 20, 30 years. A HAND-written note! Someone put pen to paper and WROTE these sentences! It's become so rare these days when practically everything's electronically input.

Her handwriting is beautiful, by the way. She's a graphic artist by training and has taken calligraphy classes. It looks just like the handwritings you'd see in a Janue Austen movie - fluid, curvey, and classic - truly a lost art in today's world.

I'd forgotten about the whole thing until this morning, when my Daily Candy email promoted a local calligraphy class next month. Write on! How very....old school! I'm in. :)

Brilliant!

2008-01-20T19:49:00.000-08:00

Saw the Bucket List yesterday - a touching film starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, about two dying cancer patients fulfilling their last wishes and squeezing the last bits out of the great experience that we call life.

Saw the movie at a Sundance theater, a new theater in San Francisco. I didn't know this - but at the time of the ticket purchase, they ask you to pick your own seat on a touch screen, just like you would booking a flight online. Very cool!

Walk in and you'll find that the theater isn't big at all. It only accommodates maybe eighty people, IF that. The arm rests are wide, and comfortable, complete with cup holders. The seats are oh so comfy. The whole place smells clean, and the floor's not sticky at all.

If you have a Sundance theater in your city, I'd recommend checking it out.

The Irony

2008-01-16T17:07:00.000-08:00

Saw someone yesterday that I hadn't seen in almost a year and half.

"So you had jaw surgery. What did they do?"

"I don't want to tell you." I half-joked to avoid the gory details, and we moved on to other subjects.

Was telling a friend about this just now. She said, "You could just direct him to your blog." "Oh no, that's too personal." I responded, then laughed - "Too personal for someone I know to read, but not too personal for random strangers online who are also going through the same experience." Now THAT's ironic.

But you know what I mean.

Updated on Jan. 17th - Mary commented:

"I think it's human nature not to want to expose to much to someone whom we might feel more vulnerable to. There is a certain appeal to anonymity, don't you think? M"

Yes, that's exactly it. You summed it up perfectly. Sigh. Thanks Mary.

Mid-Life Crisis?

2008-01-14T19:43:00.000-08:00

Here's a no-nonsense article in the New York Times about mid-life crisis. Often times, the author points out, they're just "a garden-variety case of a middle-aged narcissist grappling with the biggest insult he had ever faced: getting older".

Two Sides of the Same Cord

2008-01-08T00:10:00.000-08:00

Swedish singer Sophie Zelmani's "Going Home".

Chinese singer Faye Wang's take of the same melody. I love her voice - clean, elegant, and angelic. In fact, she says she hated its crystal-clear quality so much that she used to smoke, hoping to make it more coarse. !!! And that dress! She's probably the only one that can put it on without looking ridiculous.

Die Vs. Diet

2008-01-06T22:12:00.000-08:00

Flipping through the current issue of Fitness magazine and found their survey of 1,000 women, on how, when, and why they diet. Yeah yeah, diets are all the rage after the holiday binges. But they did have some juicy data points:

The most popular weight-loss plans are:

Slim-Fast (35%)
Weight Watchers (34%)
Atkins (25%)

Our #1 dieting trick?

Drinking water constantly (67%)
Chewing a lot of gum (20%)
Smoking (15%) - !!

30 - the minimum number of pounds most women want to lose. Typical target weight? 131 to 145.

Anecdotally, I saw a new Weight Watchers ad campaign in NYC last month that flashed catch-phrases such as "Diets are mean" and "Take a diet from dieting" on subways and cabs.

Ironically, there are fellow human beings who're malnourished and struggle to survive, while we fight the battle with fat. Is this all happening on the same planet? What can we do to level the playing field?

Clean Air!

2008-01-03T08:42:00.001-08:00

Smoking has been banned in every commercial corner in France. Thank goodness! No more stinky hair or overcoat because you had to sit in a cloud of smoke to enjoy live jazz in a local piano bar.

Money Money Money

2008-01-03T08:19:00.001-08:00

IRA is on my mind this morning. The maximum amount you can contribute for 2008 (either ROTH or Traditional) is $5,000. It pays to max out as early as possible, so your fund can snowball throughout the year - January through December - as opposed to just a month or two at the end of the year.

Missed out in 2007? No sweat - you have until April 15th to make up for the previous year. The maximum amount for 2007 is $4,000.

Of course, I'm no expert on any of this. Read up on Jim Cramer. He's handpicked some gems.

Happy 2008!

2008-01-01T18:54:00.000-08:00

Mark made hush puppies, coleslaw, and catfish for dinner tonight. Great southern fried food - exactly the right way to kick off a new year where I'd like to lose a few pounds. :P Also on this year's "bucket" list?

1. Eat more veggies and fruits.
2. Get a physical done.
3. Take French and either photography or voice lessons.
4. Adopt a puppy.
5. Visit Vietnam.

Manhattan, Meh

2007-12-31T14:34:00.000-08:00

I'd always loved New York. All the museums, bars, and restaurants in Manhattan. Its diverse population. Even the attitude. Every time I went I fell a little more in love and dreamed about relocating there someday.

But this extended trip changed my view.

It was cold but not cold enough. Rainy but didn't snow. Crowded and lit but not festive. "Sale sale" everywhere but I didn't want to buy. It felt harsh and rushed and you could see the weathered look in people's faces.

The travel to and from was also a drag, especially the inbound flight. I thought I'd boarded Day Care Central - so many screaming, crying babies on the plane that I had to throw my coat over my head to block out it all.

Things started looking up as soon as I landed in San Francisco, however. On the drive home, the Sun was shining, no traffic on the freeway, air was cool and crisp - we're called the Golden State for a reason!

For once, I'm deeply grateful I live in San Francisco and not New York. This feels like, and IS, home.

Se7en Deadly Sins

2007-12-30T19:35:00.000-08:00

Lust. Envy. Greed. Sloth. Wrath. Pride. And gluttony.

All names of martinis at the Fifty-Seven Fifty-Seven bar at the Four Seasons Hotel in midtown Manhattan (address: 57 E. 57th Street). True to their names, Lust is made of strawberries and champagne; Envy of green tea liquor; Greed with chocolate, and so on.

The bar scene isn't much to lust after, but still, the place feels classier than the W, and more modern than the Waldorf.

Does I, Lucifer come to mind, anyone? Ah, but I think in the book he was at the Ritz Carlton in London.

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Fatigued

2007-12-30T00:12:00.000-08:00

Didn't think these words would ever leave my lips - but I'm tired of New York. After ten days, the honeymoon is over, and I can't wait to head back to San Francisco.

Why? I'll elaborate tomorrow. Eyelids getting heavy....

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Word, Play

2007-12-28T16:59:00.000-08:00

NoLita and Greenwich Village both have some clever store names.

Trust Fund Baby (kids' clothing)
A Salt & Battery (fish & chips)
Tea & Sympathy (parent company of A Salt & Battery)
Rice to Riches (rice pudding)

Rice to Riches sells nothing but different flavors of rice pudding with fancy toppings, and that, in fashion/figure-conscious Manhattan could be.... well, treading on thin ice. So what do they do? Their brilliant marketing minds have come up with catchy phrases and hung them around the store.

"Eat all you want. You're already fat anyway."

"The calories you consume here are yours to keep."

"We have an agreement with the bank. They don't make rice pudding, and we don't cash checks." ;)

Another phenonmennon worth mentioning is Pinkberry, who attracts long lines with its slightly tart plain yogurt and a ton of healthy topping selections. They have multiple locations in Manhattan - do yourself a favor, avoid the one on 32nd Street. It's unbelievably long. You'd think they're handing out free shares of Apple stock!

Pinkberry does face competition, in the form of Red Mango, who's opened up shop on Bleecker Street, and received rave reviews on Yelp. I had some from both places yesterday. Honestly, I couldn't tell the difference in taste. The girl at Red Mango was friendlier, though.

The entire Bleecker Street was a friendly place. If you took Fillmore and Haight from San Francisco and meshed them together, you'd get Bleecker Street in Manhattan. It has some reasonably price boutiques, and LOTS of Jazz bars and pizza joints, where you can get a slice for $3 (and I did). Their best Jazz bar in my opinion? Zinc Bar. Not in the mood for the blues from Terra Blues, and the atmosphere was definitely different - more tourist-sy, less intimate.

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2007-12-27T00:47:00.001-08:00

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Frédéric Malle

2007-12-27T00:04:00.000-08:00

Chatted at length with a sales person at the Frédéric Malle counter in Barnes New York. They claim to have enlisted the world's best noses to create perfumes with "no limitations". Translation? The perfumers had the liberty to pursue their "perfect" perfume, using whatever ingredients they desired.

"What do you mean? Isn't that how they normally work?"

"No," he explained. "Typically the idea of a new perfume would come from marketing. They decide who they'd like to target, the ideal demographic for the new product, the image they want to project, the appropriate spokesperson, and the price point, etc. It also cannot outshine what's already in the series - to keep an even playing field. The perfumer only becomes involved after the numbers have been crunched, and they must work within the set parameters. In a couple months, they whip up a dozen or so trials in tubes, and the company chooses which one they want to sell."

"At Frédéric Malle, however, we said the sky's the limit. The cost of ingredients is no object. Some of these took more than 600 trials and over two years to create."

I was particularly taken by the Lipstick Rose, courtsey of Ralf Schwieger, which reminded me of my mother's Chanel lipstick from when I was a kid. The whiff of the lipstick as she applied it before going out. Flashbacks. Chanel lipsticks don't smell powdery anymore, but I did save an empty tube or two from a few years ago simply because they did smell like that, the aura of old school, grown-up glamour.

Ka-Ching?

2007-12-26T23:21:00.000-08:00

Not quite. But a trickle would be nice.

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The English

2007-12-25T21:25:00.000-08:00

Atonement was one of the best films I've seen in 2007. Not one to be moved by another great-love-lost story, I found myself teary-eyed at the end nonetheless. Not because of the romance, but because of the guilt, and the chance and hopes denied. It's the what-ifs that we can't live with; the aspirations and anticipations we can't live without.

On the complete opposite end of the spectrum sits the British TV Series the IT Crowd, wackier and edgier than its "predecessor", the Office. Word to the wise: don't watch the episodes on your iPod on a flight. They'll definitely make you laugh out loud and get you inquisitive looks - that is, if you manage to peel your eyes off of the screen long enough to notice. :)

Their food might make any diet entirely voluntary - "No, thank you, I'm full, really." - but the Brits certainly bring a healthy dose of sense of humor to the table, not to mention their command of the, well, English language (now THAT's a weird statement. Did I just write that?)

You just gotta love them!

View from Chelsea

2007-12-25T21:06:00.000-08:00

My friend from college, L, is visiting NYC for the first time. Having grown up in Stockholm and spent the last few years in Tokyo and Vancouver, he appreciates the international flair of New York, and especially likes the Chelsea District, where we saw the movie Atonement this afternoon, and lounged around at a coffee shop.

The Chelsea Piers leading up to the Meatpacking District, however, felt deserted, and I missed the Embarcadero in San Francisco, where it's far warmer and more alive with shops, bars, restaurants, and crowds.

Je ne sais quoi....

2007-12-23T23:24:00.000-08:00

I've said I love La Maison Du Chocolat, who originated from Paris, and also has locations in New York and Tokyo. A visit to their store is a must whenever I'm in NYC. Chatted with the sales woman as I ordered my usual - bittersweet dark hot chocolate - as she shattered my hopes with the statement that they'd never open up shop in San Fran. "Never? Why not?" "Because we enjoy the exclusivity," she said apologetically, but with subtle pride.

Hmm. Je ne sais quoi - there's something I like about it, despite the fact that it saddens me.

In parallel, perhaps there are certain things in life we should be exclusive and choosy about - what we read, watch, digest (both literally and figuratively); who we spend time with; WHAT we spend time doing; what occupies our minds. After all, our days are numbered, and each single moment counts, as we can never get it back.

On the Brink

2007-12-23T15:22:00.001-08:00

"If I had my way, if I was lucky enough, if I could be on the brink my entire life, that great sense of expectation and excitement without the disappointment, that would be the perfect state."

- Cate Blanchett

Edge of your seat. Holding your breath. I like that.

Zinc Bar

2007-12-22T23:36:00.000-08:00

I knew I came to the right place when the Brazilian Jazz seeped through the door as I descended down the stairs to the basement at the corner of LaGuardia Place and W. Houston Street.

Velvet curtains. Low ceiling. Dimmed lighting. A live band enthused in the corner of the tiny bar. A pianist, a vocalist, a bass guitarist, a drummer, and a saxphone player completed the set. Brazilian Bossa Jazz is rhythmic and care-free. You naturally get into the groove - it simply draws you in.

It's two-thirds full. A full bar lined with stools, and seven tiny little tables right across. If you manage to squeeze through the narrow walkway between the bar stools and the tiny tables, it'll lead you to the back room with half-empty private booths, where you can still hear the music, but can't see the live band.

This is a place to listen and be heard but not to see and be seen. It doesn't matter how you dress - no one can see the details anyway.

The band members are thoroughly approachable - in fact, they talked to me during the break. Lovely performance. You know they enjoy their art, which makes you enjoy their art even more.

Interested? Check out Miho Nobuzane's (the pianist) album. They also performed Aqua De Beber, of which Sophie Milman delivers a soulful rendition. Enjoy!

Also - tip from a fellow patron - check out the speak-easy at PDT (Please Don't Tell). ;)

Walking The Grid

2007-12-22T15:25:00.000-08:00

In New York. Walked along 3rd Ave. this afternoon, all the way from 52nd Street to 90th - then crossed over to Lexington and backtracked. No agenda, no plan, just free roaming. The almost 40 blocks are peppered with shops shops and shops, of course, but only these caught my eye:

Barber shops - they still call them that? It's almost endearing.
Two puppy stores - miniature shih tzus selling at a whopping $2,500 each. Errr....ever notice there are equally great puppies you can adopt at the shelter for $60? Grrrr.
Bar and Books - cute concept. Too bad they were closed. I peeked in - it's an old-fashioned bar with leather armchairs throughout and bookshelves adorned with heavy hardcovers. Must....go....back.
Lorenzo and Maria's Kitchen - gave me flashbacks of Paris. Fancy window display for a cute neighborhood European-style deli. They're on 3rd Ave. between 80th and 81st. Didn't buy anything there this time 'cause I wasn't hungry, but their salad, fish, and sweets all looked heavenly. Plus, they'll be open even on the 24th, so I'm definitely going back.
Fig and Olive - they set the bar up high, but only literally. The limited wine selection leaves much to be desired. Sipped a glass of syrah while watching an episode of the British TV series the IT Crowd (thanks Jan!) on my iPod Touch. I just love appreciate the Brits' dry sense of humor - so much better than, say, There's Something About Mary.

Gotta relax now and then get ready a jazz bar tonight. Zinc Bar, Birdland, or the Village Vanguard? Hmm....decisions, decisions.

Merry Christmas

2007-12-10T21:12:00.000-08:00

I'm dreaming of a white Christmas....

No, really, I am. I'm going to spend it in New York. Which, to a Californian who grew up in Beijing, with an unfortunate pitstop in Texas, feels like homecoming.

This has been an eventful, wonderful year. Summer trip to Europe. Successful jaw surgery. Satisfying new job with smart, friendly colleagues. Moving in with a man that I love - no, not THAT - one of my closest friends who happens to be gay, that is.

It's not all peachy, of course. Some health woes (not related to the jaw surgery). A break up. Nothing devastating, though. Which makes me think - a break up that isn't devastating is perhaps in itself devastating. Know what I mean? After all, I want something that MATTERS - don't you?

All in all, a wonderful year. It feels good to be comfortable in my own skin, with my own choices in life - and, dare I say, MORE than just feeling comfortable - but actually thriving.... and loving every minute of it, for the good AND the bad.

Christmas is still two weeks away - but for the first time, I feel ready.... and ahead of the game. Presents purchased and wrapped. Cards mailed. You can say the holidays have been tinted by commercialization, but I rather enjoy the spirit of the season: the warm and fuzzy, the giving, the gratitude and the thoughtfulness of it all.

Merry Christmas.

Brandy's Beautiful Smile

2007-12-06T07:35:00.001-08:00

Congratulations to Brandy on her beautiful new smile! Finally braces-free! :)

One Is No Longer the Loneliest Number

2007-12-05T20:42:00.000-08:00

A friend of mine told me that survey says the number one fear is the fear of traveling alone - it even tops the fear of public speaking.

My ears burn and cheeks flush if I have to speak to a large audience. It makes me anxious. In fact, I'm already stressing out about having to present at our company sales training in January - and it's more than a month away!

Traveling alone, however, is something I enjoy thoroughly. But it does have its inconveniences - not being able to share the cost of hotel stays, for example, is one of them. A New York Times article today perked me up - apparently, the travel industry has taken notice and expanded their offers to attract more solo flyers. Now THAT's good news.

I should also add that the comments are much more interesting than the article itself. I'd like to meet all the solo travelers out there! :)

Added on December 6, 2007:

Thanks for your comment, Bill. :) Nairobi, Kenya is definitely the most unusual. I'm not sure I'd even brave a visit, not to mention LIVE there. But like you said, people fear the unknown and the unfamiliar.

Here's my comment on the NYT article:

"It's so nice to read through the comments here and find people who are as addicted to traveling alone as I am. Some find it intimidating, but for this group it's an absolutely freeing and elevating experience. To be on your own, navigating through a new city or country, do whatever your heart desires, and make no comproises.

I had the best experiences in Sydney, London, and Kyoto. I agree with what most of you said here, that booking independently allows you more freedom AND saves you money. We have the Internet now - just go to the travel sites and start comparison shopping. Alternatively, if you have impromptu change of plans, get help from the local tourist information center. Those guys helped me get last-minute hotel rooms in Venice, Brussels, and Amsterdam, all for very reasonable prices.

The adventure, the risk, the uncertainty, and the chance meetings are all part of the allure. It's nice to have the option of pairing up with other solo travelers.... but those elements ARE the core of traveling alone. That's what makes it addictive.

— Kristen, San Francisco, California"

Christmas Party!

2007-12-05T20:19:00.000-08:00

Christmas party 2006 Vs. Christmas party 2007.

The photo on the left was taken in January 2007, days before my jaw surgery. The braces had worsened my bite - re-positioning my teeth so that they would meet optimally right after surgery.

If I had to do it all over again, I would, in a heartbeat. Despite the cost, the pain, and the long wait. It's absolutely worth it to get a "normal" bite.

The Shopping Diet

2007-12-03T22:42:00.000-08:00

A friend of mine told me about the "shopping diet". No, you don't lose weight as a result. You lose the clutter and save money instead. How?

The shopping diet means you refrain from buying anything that will take up space. Food is, of course, allowed.

As I scramble to load up on crap for Christmas, the shopping diet has started to sound better and better. In the past month alone I've bought:

A pair of earrings
A necklace
A cashmere blanket
A cocktail dress
Two DVDs
A goose-down puffer jacket
Two candles
A jar of lotion
Two lip glosses
A jacket

Sure, some are gifts. But the rest ARE for me. Now looking back, I'm thinking - wait a minute! Life was good BEFORE I bought these things, and it's no better AFTER. Why did I buy these? Grrrrr.

How can you go far if you don't travel light?

Got you thinking? Read about someone who did go on the shopping diet, for 365 days. Maybe I'll follow in her footsteps.

Why bad kissers don't get to second base

2007-12-03T22:10:00.000-08:00

This CNN article overanalyzes what we already know: a bad kiss can be a deal-breaker. Forget how to "improve your kiss". Good kissers are natural born, not made! ;)

An Urban Legend

2007-11-28T00:27:00.001-08:00

Apple's Steve Jobs tops the list as the Most Powerful Businessman. First the iPod with not just music but also video, now the iPhone - not to mention their ever-improving desktops and laptops. AAPL has risen 106% year-to-date, more than 2000% in 5 years. Now there's an urban legend.

Perfect Sunday Music

2007-11-25T09:52:00.000-08:00

Dan in Real Life introduced me to the music of Sondre Lerche (pronounced "Sonder Lerkay"), a Boy Wonder from Bergen, Norway. The acoustic guitar, the occasional piano, the easy rhythm, and the unpretentious vocal chords - he weaves music that makes you want to stroll down a pebble-studded European street with hands in your jeans pockets; bask in the warm sun and curl up with a good book and a big cup of cafe au lait; cruise in a convertible with the top down and sing, sing along, in the crisp autumn air, while watching the foliage turn their colors.

The style of his music - the fact that the vocal chords take the front seat, that nothing's overly dressed up - reminds me of another band, Kings of Convenience, whose songs I absolutely adore. Just looked them up and discovered to my surprise that they happen to be Norwegians from Bergen, too.

Recommended Sondre Lerche Tracks:

I'll be OK
My Hands Are Shaking

Recommended Kings of Convenience Tracks:

Cayman Islands
Live Long
Misread

You can sample their music at Pandora, Rhapsody, and iTunes.

Black Friday

2007-11-23T12:01:00.000-08:00

Black Friday. No, not THAT Black Friday. The annual recurring Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving, when everyone goes shopping and helps the stores go from red to black in their books.

I'm not in the mood to brave the malls today. But I am participating in the national sport of shopping - on eBay. Except, this time the table's turned - I'm SELLING on eBay. "Editing" my closet, so to speak. A J. Crew sweater, a J. Crew jacket, a pair of J. Crew tall leather boots, a wool coat, a pair of brand new Oscar de la Renta leather pumps, tough-gal hiking boots worn only once, and a pair of 14K gold stud earrings that I received as a gift a million years ago which never even left the box.

Interested? Browse through them and make a bid. Happy hunting!

Happy Thanksgiving!

2007-11-22T20:08:00.000-08:00

Thanksgiving 2006 vs. Thanksgiving 2007.

Focus Forward

2007-11-18T19:04:00.001-08:00

As my orthodontics and jaw surgery have come to a successful end, I've decided to expand the focus on this blog to talk about.... life in general. Observations, exasperations, and perhaps even exclamations. It's all trial and error.... and so I brace myself. :)

Facebook - If you don't have an account there yet, get one! It's not just for students anymore.
Lust, Caution - Caution: total movie bust. Perhaps the hype spoiled it for me. But this was one of the worst Ang Lee movies I've ever watched, despite rave reviews.
Beowulf - No 300.... but wow the computer-generated graphics were amazing. The details were vivid: skin texture, fine hair, snow, ripples, trees. You gotta see it to believe it!
Christmas in New York - The tree at Rockefeller Center! Broadway! The Met! Nothing beats a white Christmas. :)
Presents - I plan to do 80% of my Christmas shopping online. You? Take the survey in the upper left corner of this page!

Jawbone

2007-11-15T07:50:00.001-08:00

Funny name for a fancy headset. Don't you think?

A different Angle

2007-11-11T23:11:00.000-08:00

All smiles. :) Now vs. 2004.

Braces Make A Guest Appearance At A Wedding

2007-11-11T21:42:00.000-08:00

Manhattan would've been a great backdrop for any wedding. Alas, the wedding I attended yesterday was held in Jersey.

But it WAS in a country club. Jewish and lavish. I'm sure it's not PC to say so, but country clubs still feel very Old Boys' Club. Whiskey and cigars were readily available - so here you see me posing as one of the boys, complete with the suit jacket! (A dress simply didn't cut it if you were outside for a smoke.) Cigar's not my thing, really - I'd have preferred a fake chocolate "cigar" instead. Tant pis. ;)

I was re-applying lip stick in front of the mirror at the ladies' when two little old ladies hurried in. One said - "Oh I have to check my braces and make sure nothing's stuck on there" - and proceeded to the sink next to mine. She's probably in her 60s, with gray hair, in a dress that reminded me of both Queen Elizabeth and Sophia (from Golden Girls - why do I know such things?) at the same time. To my amazement, she opened her lips - and there they were! Braces! She quickly checked them, removed a toothbrush from her purse, and began brushing vigorously. "It's so much work! I have to do this every time I eat." She looked over at me with the outburst.

"I just had my braces removed about two months ago," the memories flashed back vividly, "it was a lot of work indeed!" I agreed.

We chatted a little longer about the wonders of braces and parted our ways. Half way through the reception someone patted me on the back. I turned around and saw a friendly face. It was the petite old lady with the braces. "Keep that smile on!" She flashed a bright smile of her own and disappeared into the crowd.

A Shout Out to Laura!

2007-11-04T08:55:00.000-08:00

Hi there Laura, thanks for your comment on "The Elephant Woman". I'm delighted to "meet" a fellow Dr. Li patient. It sounds like you've just started out - oh my, spacers, what fun memory! :) I remember how I felt - a LONG, dark tunnel ahead, and no light at the end whatsoever. Yes it did feel like it would take "decades". However, now that everything's said and DONE, I can assure you that it'll be over before you know it. It'll be become part of the routine, your attention will shift to life in general, and before you know it, you'll have had your surgery and subsequent recovery and voila, a whole new you, then ON to the next new adventure. Buckle up and enjoy the ride - because indeed it'll be a short one. Even if it doesn't feel that way right now.

Again, nice to "meet" you, and please feel free to reach out along the way. Have fun!

Everybody - I've added a link to Laura's blog on the left, in the "Surf's Up" section. Read it at http://bracedup.blogspot.com/.

West (Coast) Meets East (Coast)

2007-10-08T21:38:00.000-07:00

Spent the weekend in New York. Saw my cousin (-->) and brother. Ate hotdogs in the street. Shopped at Bloomingdale's. Watched Wicked. Dined at Perilla. Stayed at the Empire Hotel on 63rd. Strolled in Central Park. Sipped hot chocolate at La Maison Du Chocolat.

Sounds nice, and it was. Except, it was too damn hot and humid. Crowds everywhere. People walking. People jay-walking. Gawking tourists. Sweat. For the first time, it was a little too much.

Do I love New York? Yes. But do I love it enough to live there? I don't know.

If you find yourself there, however, do check out La Maison Du Chocolat. Their creamy pastries, rich hot chocolate, and pretty much everything else in the store - more than compensate for their very French attitude. I'm hooked. I absolutely have to go there every time I'm in New York. They only have locations in Paris (3, I think), Tokyo, and NYC. You can buy online, but shipping is insanely expensive.

Jolie Vs. Kidman

2007-10-02T23:02:00.000-07:00

I'm using the photos of these two ladies to illustrate a point.

Look at Kidman's upper teeth, then look at Jolie's. See any difference?

Ms. Kidman's upper teeth are more "tipped in", while Ms. Jolie's seem more expanded and wider.

Where am I going with this? Well - the short version? I've asked my ortho to tip in my upper front teeth, and she's doing that with the upper retainer, which I picked up today.

The long version? I'm missing an incisor on the bottom. It simply never came out. This means, simply put, that my upper teeth have a wider circumference over all, and my ortho and OS have had to compensate for the missing bottom incisor (7 mm). As a result, there's a slightly bigger space between my upper and lower front teeth (the upper "OVER" bottom part) than "ideal". It bothers me a little bit, because it feels as though my bite isn't as tight as it should/could be. When I asked my ortho about it two weeks ago, she said she could "tip in" the upper teeth with the retainer if I wanted to. After some consideration, I discussed it with her during my retainer appointment this morning. She said it wouldn't alter my jaw or facial structure, and that it's purely a matter of preference. So we agreed to proceed.

She shaved off a total of 2 mm from my upper teeth (horizontally), then bent the retainer in all the right places and made it sit lower across my upper teeth than usual (to tip them in). We'll see!

I don't like the retainer too much - who does? It slurs my speech, and makes me gag a little. But, it just takes some getting used to....

I'm very, very happy with the results of my surgery and orthodontics work overall - and THANKS for all your comments and encouragements, folks. This is merely fine tuning. Too bad it won't make me look like either of the ladies you see here (sigh), but it WILL minimize the gap and create a tighter bite. :)

Time for bed - and I gotta pop the retainer back in. Oy!

No Hardware!

2007-09-17T22:11:00.000-07:00

This is it! The day I've been waiting for.

My ortho debraced me today, right on schedule.

Wires cut. Brackets removed. Glue scratched off. Scrub scrub scrub. Buff buff buff. Holding my breath. Big sigh of relief - NO stains on the teeth. Phew! No need to rush to Brite Smile anytime soon. Thank goodness!

Ribs and corn on the cob for dinner, washed down with the congratulatory bottle of Martinelli's Sparkling Apple-Cranberry, compliments of my orthodontist. Isn't she nice?

It's far from over, though. For starters, I gotta wear a removable metal retainer across my upper teeth for eight months, 24/7. The bottom retainer has been built in.

I also will ask my ortho to tip in my upper teeth a little bit. Right now there's simply too much space where my upper overlaps my lower. My ortho said it's because they had to compensate for my missing tooth on the bottom (it just never came out in the first place), but they can adjust it with the retainer if I prefer closer contact.

My upper and lower gums both feel numb. But other than that, everything feels the way it should. :)

OK I'm a complainer....

2007-09-17T12:31:00.001-07:00

I'm sitting in a chair at my ortho's office with mixed feelings. The assistant is coming back soon to make a mold of my upper for the retainer, which I'll come back for in two weeks.

Speaking of which - I had no idea the upper retainer will be sitting in FRONT of my upper teeth, which means it'll be VISIBLE. And I'll have to wear it 24/7 for eight MONTHS. Aaarrggh!

The "Mug" Shot

2007-09-16T11:44:00.000-07:00

My friend Isabelle (she's the one that told me about the jaw surgery in the first place) calls these "mug shots". They're my "before" photos taken on November 22, 2005, when I first went in for consultation.

The braces didn't come on until February 14, 2006 - and they're coming off tomorrow! More updates then. :)

Fun Survey

2007-09-14T11:37:00.000-07:00

Which do you find more stressful - an ortho appointment, or a dentist appointment? Take the fun survey in the upper left corner of my blog (look to the left, at the top of the column). :)

Personally, I like my ortho better. She always tells me it's looking good, improving, and I'll be just fine.

All the dentists I've had always tell me to brush brush brush, floss floss floss, and stay off sweets (as if!). Besides, that buzzzzzzzz of their torture devices - it petrifies me to no end.

My $0.02. :)

Braces Removed

2007-09-13T13:45:00.001-07:00

As my de-bracing date approaches, I was curious how that'd feel like - so I did a Google search on "braces removed". Guess what turned up? How to remove braces - in PhotoShop. LOL.

Aching Arches

2007-09-12T03:58:00.000-07:00

I hate these rubber bands that zigzag across my whole mouth. Thank God they don't cause any severe headaches or reduce me to the state of near-tears like they did a couple weeks ago, when they first snapped on, but they're still a royal pain in the..... teeth?

I can't yawn. I can't sneeze. I can't lick my lips. And, I obviously can't talk, except through clenched teeth.

And there's this dull pain throughout both arches. Urgh.

Counting down, counting down.

I just didn't expect the end to be so difficult.

7, 6, 5....

2007-09-10T20:08:00.000-07:00

One week till debracing!!

My ortho agreed that my molars require more rubber band magic to help eliminate the gap. She told me to wear the elastics every night until my next appointment, a week from today - then she will remove the braces.

I chowed down dinner from Whole Foods' salad bar and snapped the rubber bands back on. No late night snack for me! Sigh.

I can't believe I'm almost done! :)

I said I'd do it, didn't I?

2007-09-09T22:25:00.000-07:00

I was serious when I said I'd start taking flying lessons. Signed up for my first lesson, and here I am, in a 4-seater Cessna, flying out of a hangar next to Oakland International Airport. My instructor let me do some turns, get a feel of the rudders, and find the right trim to stay level. It was exhilarating. Mark - my ex(roommate) and soon-to-be future roommate - took this photo from the backseat after we landed, and I'd just removed my headset (hair flying everywhere!).

There's so much to learn - aerodynamics, flight maps, all the lingo you hear on the radio - and I just can't wait to chip away at it, and eventually get my private pilot license.

The thrill comes, I think, from doing something I know I want to do, and expanding my comfort zone.

That's when I truly feel alive.

Closing the Gap

2007-09-09T08:33:00.000-07:00

Have an appointment with my ortho tomorrow to see if the elastics have done their magic, and that my bite is "perfect". If everything goes according to plan, then she'll remove the braces in a week, on Sept. 17th.

But I fear the elastics haven't done a perfect job. There still seems to be a slight gap between the top and bottom molars on the right side. They touch, but only barely, and when I bite down, I don't feel a solid contact surface there as I do on the left side.

She just might have to prolong the treatment until this is fixed. Grrrr. So close (to being done), yet so far away!

But I'm getting ahead of myself. I'll find out in about 24 hours.

Just Do It!

2007-09-03T23:24:00.000-07:00

I'm turning 31 in just a couple days. In a moment of self-reflection/soul-searching, I found the running to-do list I wrote on the back of a journal. Some items have been checked off, while the others stare back at me as a loud tick-tock echoes in my head.

Here's the legend:

Grey - Mission Accomplished
Green - New on the List
Underlined - To Do This Year

Visit NYC (well, yes, I have, many many times)

Learn to speak French somewhat fluently

Get a JD (we're talking three years of my life here!)

Adopt a puppy

Own a house that has a swimming pool

Live in New York

Visit Europe (three times now, all over the map)

Own a piano

Watercolor paint something I like (Yep, done)

Weigh 130 lbs

Live in California (check)

Visit Paris (check, check, check. 3 times)

Visit Italy (Loved Venice!)

Earn a college degree (Isn't that a given these days?)

Marry a good man

Get a diamond ring (I've bought my own diamond rings, thank you very much)

Fly 1st class (if flying in a private jet counts, then consider it done)

Make a scholarship donation to my university

Become a US citizen

Read the Bible once, from cover to cover

Take bartender classes

Take drum lessons

Take flying lessons

Visit Norway

Hmm. The drum and bartender lessons can wait. Shaving off 10 lbs to be 130? Nah. I feel comfortable as is. Marrying a good man? The timing isn't entirely up to me. The puppy would have to wait until I get a house with a swimming pool and buy a piano to plant in the living room. Getting a JD and moving to New York - the timing isn't right. I know, I've been saying that for at least three years now. But do I really want to spend three years in law school when it's extremely difficult to eventually make partner?

First things first. This year, starting immediately, I gotta learn to speak French, read the Bible, and take flying lessons. Chop chop!

By the way, 43things.com can help you keep track of your to-do list AND find others with the same interest. I find that inspiring!

Winery Memberships?

2007-09-02T10:58:00.000-07:00

Completely off topic.

Does anyone have a winery membership? Do you recommend it? I'm also thinking about joining a wine club online. Thumbs up? Down?

I'm not a wine connoisseur - yet. But I do enjoy reds, and I'd love to learn and expand my small collection. Any tips would be much appreciated! :)

It's all swell

2007-09-02T10:31:00.000-07:00

At 2 and 7 months post op. Notice how the chipmunk cheeks have deflated. Before and after photos are fun, because you really get to see the difference!

7 Months!!

2007-09-01T23:24:00.001-07:00

The elastics finally stopped hurting about three days ago. Thanks Mylene, Bill, Graham, and Brandy, for your encouragements.

I can't believe it's September already. New Year feels like only yesterday. Where did the time go? Seep through my fingers again?

Seven months post op - I'm ready to get the braces off and move on. Part of my lower lip and right chin still feel numb, but the feelings have been returning gradually. The photo on the left was taken on the morning of my braces "installation", in February 2006. The photo on the right was how I looked today.

Now that I've been through this, I tend to notice abnormal jaw alignments a lot more than before. Saw this girl at a Napa wine tasting today, who has the exact same problem I did: long face, protruding lower jaw (not quite an underbite yet), pointy chin. We chatted for a few minutes, small talk. Looking at her reminded me of my old self, and how I was always horrified by my own profile and avoided the issue. I was just dying, DYING to tell her about the jaw surgery! But even I wasn't that bold. After all, this is quite personal, and wine tasting isn't exactly the right forum for jaw surgery advocacy. :)

But for all of you out there who're considering the option, if it's medically necessary, and your insurance covers a reasonable percentage, then why not? My $0.02.

Their Itinerary is Your Menu

2007-08-29T09:33:00.001-07:00

New York has so much to offer - it makes it hard to decide where to go, what to see and what to eat on a short stay. Now perhaps these New York food tours would make it a little easier.

I really love New York. One of my friends is about to move there for a new job next month. I want to go, too!

The timing is right. The braces are almost done and I don't need to be chained to my ortho and oral surgeon.

The timing is wrong. I just started a new job two weeks ago.

I am, however, going to New York for a weekend in October. My second trip there this year, and maybe the sixth visit overall.

OUCH

2007-08-28T12:24:00.000-07:00

I want to cry. The rubber bands hurt SO badly.

Took two extra strength Tylenols before hopping on the red eye to Boston last night, which is saying a lot, as I have a very high tolerance for pain. But it wasn't enough. It hurt so badly I couldn't drift to sleep and I wanted to rip my mouth off. Well, that wouldn't be a good idea, so I ripped the rubber bands off instead. My ortho had told me it'd feel a little sore. But this was not a "little sore". It was FULL-ON PAIN.

I don't know how I'm gonna survive the next six days.

Snap!

2007-08-27T16:24:00.001-07:00

Crazy rubber bands? You can say THAT again!

My ortho cut down the wires (hard to see, but now they only cover the front teeth, not the entire archs) today, and zig-zag'd "crazy rubber bands" up and down my entire mouth to tighten up the bite. I have to wear this for a whole week. Then remove the rubber bands and roam free for another week. Then go see her again to make sure there are no relapses. Then she will - drum roll, please - remove the braces!

This snapped me all the way back to the weeks immediately following surgery. My jaws are, in essence, wired shut again. AARRRGGGHHHH! The difference? This time I can remove the rubber bands when I eat. AND, yes, I can eat. Woohoo!

The timing couldn't BE any better. In a few hours I'm jetting over to Boston on a redeye (the price I pay for keeping my ortho appointment and saving two weeks) for training. Which means, my colleagues won't see me like this but for one day on Friday. Yep, I'm THAT vain. :) Plus, it's near impossible to "talk" through clenched teeth.

I wonder how anyone managed to understand me over the phone this afternoon. Bless their hearts!

Discolored Teeth?

2007-08-19T20:51:00.000-07:00

I'm getting the braces off in about a month's time. Hooray!

But now I have a new concern. What if, after the brackets come off, it turns out they've left white spots on my teeth, while the areas around the brackets are stained? Am I making any sense? I'm just worried that my teeth would look discolored to the point where you can see where the brackets have been. Has anyone encountered this problem?

Red-Eye, Metal-Mouth

2007-08-15T22:46:00.000-07:00

I need to go to Boston (I live in San Francisco) for business training week after next. The class starts on Tuesday at 9 am and spans across three days.

I won't land until 6:30 am on Tuesday and will drop off my luggage at the hotel (hopefully they'll let me freshen up), and head straight to the class. Yes - I'm taking a redeye.

Why wouldn't I fly out on Monday, the day before?

Good question.

It's because I don't want to reschedule/postpone my orthodontist appointment on Monday and wait two extra weeks. I have an ortho appointment at noon on Monday, August 27th. They tell me if I reschedule that one they won't be able to squeeze me in again until September 10th. No, no, no, no, no.

Suffer redeye for one night, or endure braces for two extra weeks? Now THAT's a no-brainer (at least for me)!

IF, if if if, everything works out as planned, I should be "debanded" on September 17th. Woohoo!

Six Months!

2007-08-09T11:05:00.000-07:00

The photo on the left was from my company Christmas party in January, about two weeks before my surgery. The one on the right was in Madrid, taken on August 2nd, six months after the surgery. Funny how I never thought there was a problem with my upper jaw, too.

Photos from Europe

2007-08-09T08:49:00.000-07:00

I've posted some pictures from Brussels, Amsterdam, Madrid, Tafalla, and London on my photo blog.

Sensational

2007-08-09T07:38:00.000-07:00

They pass out tabloids like these for free in the streets of London.

De ja Vu

2007-08-08T21:36:00.001-07:00

Unbelievable. My outbound flight from PHL was delayed not one, not two, but EIGHT hours on my way to Belgium two weeks ago. We were supposed to take off at 8 PM, but never did until 4 in the morning!

Now it's two hours after our original departure time out of D.C., and back to San Francisco. And what happens? Nothing. We've been simply sitting here, in the plane, waiting.

Finally, another two-hour delay before the takeoff. What's going on with US Airways and United?

On a separate note, JetBlue had a very minor delay on one of my trips a few months ago. They promptly emailed me a $25 voucher within days. What a pleasant surprise!

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One V or Another

2007-08-08T14:31:00.001-07:00

I'm due to report to my new job at 8 Friday morning, for sales training (I'm in marketing myself).

Until then, I have about 24 hours to relax, unpack, and get over the jetlag.

This has been a wonderful trip, my first solo journey to Europe. People typically react in two ways when they hear that I travel alone - 1. Wow you're brave, or 2. Wouldn't you rather travel with friends?

I'm not brave. I don't consider traveling alone "brave". Well, it depends on where you're going. South America? Yes. Western Europe? No.

The second comment contains the hidden implication of "don't you have any friends?". Not many, but sure, I do. And I enjoy traveling with them as much as flying solo. In fact, this trip, my first journey to Europe on my own (though I met up with friends in Spain for the wedding), was a better experience than my last two trips there with friends.

Why? No waiting around for each other. No need to negotiate and compromise on agendas. No flared tempers because of stress. I was completely selfish and did exactly what I wanted, WHEN I wanted. Some planning, and a lot of doing it on a whim. It was really liberating and fun.

My next trip, however, I'd do something completely different. Vietnam (where the $ would be considered a strong currency), OR Vienna, and with a friend or two. :)
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American Accent

2007-08-08T14:29:00.001-07:00

We are onboard. The Captain made an announcement. His familiar American accent meant one thing to me: home. Funny how much you appreciate that after two weeks of foreign language. :)
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Voila!

2007-08-08T02:51:00.000-07:00

Two weeks, four countries, and five cities later, the travel bug is out of my system. Dare I say, that I'm in fact ready to go home? The Land of the Free.... waters and bathrooms. :)

The officer at the airline check in asked me how come I'm traveling so light - all I have is a North Face backpack stuffed to the nines and a small messenger bag. Well, I said, I've been to Europe before and had a suitcase but really didn't need it. So this time I've learned. And trust me, the backpack is not "light". It is heavy. But of course, I kept that one last bit to myself. There's no humor in joking with an officer that hasn't quite mastered the Engish language.

I'm waiting to board my flight out of Brussels, now armed with two boxes of truffles and a box of dark chocolates. But the best purchase? A fridge magnet showing two beer mugs that says - "Two beer or not to beer? Shakesbeer.". :)

I'm homebound! :D

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Re: Tea, English Tea

2007-08-07T08:40:00.001-07:00

On a 2nd thought, if I skipped the tea, I'd probably have fit into some of the clothes, and solved at least one of the two problems. :P
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